"So is This a Date?"

Have you ever accepted an invitation to spend time with someone and thought to yourself, "Is this a date?" I have to admit I find myself asking this a lot. So what defines a date? Of course, like any other question I have, I turn to Google first. This is what I found:

1. Sex -

Do people really think that if you are not physically intimate with someone, then it is not a date? In my opinion, this is wrong on all sorts of levels. So...uh...no...sorry. I simply do not agree.

2. Flirting -

As stated in the blog title...I swim, I bike, I run, and I flirt...a lot. That does not mean that I intend to date everyone I flirt with, it is a natural instinct....I cannot help it.

3. The guy pays for everything -

This implies that money has to be spent. Would that mean that spending a day hiking would not be a date? Personally, I would much rather spend the day at a park with someone, than in a restaurant or at a movie theater.

I am sad to admit; even Google does not have all the answers, at least not on this subject. So on to my second source of reference, my roommate. In talking to my roommate, he simply said, a kiss is what defines a date..."if there is no kiss, there is no date." It is nothing more than friends hanging out.

It does not have to be an all out make-out session. I mean, chances are you do not know the other person that well yet. However, a simple kiss, even on the cheek, means, "I am interested." Moreover, for the guy initiating the kiss: if the girl pulls away, she is not interested. Although I do not always agree with my roommate, I do think this is a good rule of thumb. It leaves the guesswork out, which is good for someone who flirts with everyone...